L's X-Ray Vision

It is true ... Valentines Day is like Christmas - ...

2012-02-17T01:31:49.075-05:00

It is true ... Valentines Day is like Christmas - a holiday filled with expectations - many unmet . The worst thing for anyone to do is make those unmet expectations personal. I have been in numerous relationships - long term and short term - good and bad and I have spent a good amount of time single. Every relationship is different and only those people can say what they have or lack. I never am at a loss for men that want to spend time with me and I think that has everything to do with the fact that I LIKE SPENDING TIME WITH ME - when I am single it's cool - I can do what I want when I want and with whom I want- I am willing to give that up if I really like someone. I hate going out on Valentines even if I am with someone - it's a tacky holiday.♥♡♥

Well Jesse from Brooklyn, It must be intellectual...

2012-02-15T13:51:51.023-05:00

Well Jesse from Brooklyn,

It must be intellectual prowess. Because it's quite obvious that I have something you want if you keep coming back for more of being put on blast.

LOL @intellectual prowess

2012-02-15T13:26:32.690-05:00

LOL @intellectual prowess

To Jimmy,Jesse,or whatever name you want to pull o...

2012-02-14T17:58:38.870-05:00

To Jimmy,Jesse,or whatever name you want to pull out of your ass today:

It is NOT sad that at 40 I've never been involved with someone beyond a month. At least I haven't wasted more than a month on assholes like you and so many others have just for the sake of saying they've had a relationship.

Lastly, your defensiveness shows that I obviously struck a nerve by citing the lacking quality of your life and relationship. And for giving me the ammo I need to make my point, your comment stays put.

So thank you for being an asshole that I can use to show my intellectual prowess that intimidates you so that you use fake names, even while all the way in Chino Hills, CA.
;-)

Happy Valentine LeNair Xavier. You celebrate this...

2012-02-14T17:31:29.542-05:00

Happy Valentine LeNair Xavier. You celebrate this day however you want to and screw (no pun intended)what other's think! I have spoken to alot of friends today who don't celebrate Valentines Day and most of these people have been together for over 10 years!!!

X

-It is "so, so sad" that in your 40 year...

2012-02-14T12:18:40.702-05:00

-It is "so, so sad" that in your 40 years you have never had a romantic relationship lasting more than a month.

-It is "so, so sad" that you are so cynical about a manufactured Hallmark holiday that a lot of people find fun. After all, things will be back to normal tomorrow.

-It's "so, so sad" that you have made it your business to criticize the quality of someones relationship when those relationships are none of your business.

-It's "so, so sad" that that you are so, so sad.

I fully expect you to delete my comments, but that's ok. I'm sure you'll feel better.

Jesse, What I find sad is your constant need to c...

2012-02-13T23:36:30.591-05:00

Jesse,

What I find sad is your constant need to come to my blog, and nit-pick. Last week as "Jimmy". Now as "Jesse".

Seriously, whether you're single or (believe that) you're not, you must be one of the sad lonely things that I'm speaking of in my poem. Because if you weren't so lonely, you would actually have something worthwhile to add to the conversation. For it is people with empty lives who respond as you do.

Now, if I'm jumping to the wrong conclusion about you, then you need to (1)better explain your comment, and (2)make a track record of commenting void of the cattiness, you've become known for. Then I'll delete my own comment. Until that time however, this reply to you stands.

So, so sad.

2012-02-13T22:51:37.871-05:00

So, so sad.

just keeping you lenair - happy birthday (early) x...

2012-02-06T10:52:26.897-05:00

just keeping you lenair - happy birthday (early) x

2012-02-03T11:46:01.573-05:00

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You're looking good! I will hit 40 soon and p...

2012-01-25T17:32:01.888-05:00

You're looking good! I will hit 40 soon and people have said the same thing about me that I have not changed in looks! one of my friends from University thinks I am 10 years younger than him yet I am exactly two months older lol! He nearly fainted!!!

Hey good looking!

2012-01-12T13:20:02.887-05:00

Hey good looking!

I knew this trend was starting over a year ago wh...

2012-01-09T09:07:06.720-05:00

I knew this trend was starting over a year ago when Reichen from that A-list show had used the word "bully" in a couple of interviews just because people were criticizing the show and/or his behavior on it; I thought that it was a slap in the face to all the kids that are really being bullied that they were being compared to that asshat (they don't have their own show with cameras following them around 24/7 like he does). Just because he can't take a little bit of criticism.

Jay, I am living proof that there is a difference...

2012-01-08T11:42:00.836-05:00

Jay,

I am living proof that there is a difference between bisexuality and sexually fluid.

1) As the point of the post shows, people who define themselves as "sexually fluid" should feel disenfranchised. And since that was the OBVIOUS point of this post...
2) DON'T YOU EVER COME TO MY BLOG TO WRITE A BLOG POST WITHIN MY BLOG!!!!
Write your own blog post on your space, and direct me to it in your comment on mine. For next time, your comment will be deleted. Thank you.

(CONTINUED) I was brought to believe that every ci...

2012-01-08T11:22:01.739-05:00

(CONTINUED) I was brought to believe that every civil rights cause, particularly in this country, was to bring attention to the plight of each disenfranchised minority, thereby inciting bylaws & civil actions to purport tolerance, which would hopefully bring about more education & acceptance, thereby completing the circle via full societal assimilation (e.g. in the end, there shouldn't be a need to name yourself outside of how you are called unless it is necessary to attain some benign social goal). It is the observation of this humble reader & surveyor of the world that the groups that seem to have the most trouble drawing this circle are the ones who keep tripping over the 'awareness' section; we've become so inordinately obsessed with the proverbial labels you speak of, with "We're here, we're queer, get used to it" and similar mantras that many of us are failing to realize that much of society is responding: "We see you, we're hearing you, what do you need from us?" Instead of proactively pushing forward towards assimilation and diversifying the community, we're happy to settle with fighting amongst ourselves and blaming each other for not "properly" naming our sexuality. This is what distresses me the most about LGBT culture, because there are so many amazing things that we already bring to the world for its benefit, just being who we are, labels or no.

I think, as we move into the New Age, that it is high time we as LGBT citizens worry less about how we call ourselves, and begin to truly reciprocate & emulate the kind of good-natured, positive behavior that we are now expecting from our peers, co-workers, elected officials, and so on. Hypothetically, putting our arms around the one who calls him or herself fluid and saying, "that's cool," does a far better job of moving the movement forward than pointing them out and saying "you're uncomfortable with yourself, you're a detriment to the cause, and you need to check your sh*t elsewhere." The question that really needs to be answered is, are we mature enough, are we REALLY ready for such a notion? To be as accepting of nominal variants of our community as we insist the world be of us? It's a question that I hope, someday, we can all look each other in the eye and respond with a resounding, "YES."

L., I very much see your point, and there are alot...

2012-01-08T11:21:27.751-05:00

L., I very much see your point, and there are alot of valid reasons behind your views, but would it not be seen by some (me, for instance), that you are now antagonizing the LGBT Civil Rights movement? That is, for the person who chooses to identify themselves as sexually fluid, don't blogs & posts such as these give them even more reason to feel disenfranchised (first by society at large, and now by the very communities who are supposed to understand their struggle but instead insist they take a label)? As someone who has had to fight with my own inner demons for years to arrive at a place of self-love and acceptance, I still don't feel a need to speak on my sexuality unless it is relevant to a beneficial situation or purpose. I take pride in the fact that I can wake up with myself and feel confident that I have something to offer the world, without apology or regret, and my orientation, though an integral portion of this revelation, is just that; a portion.

Of course, it is of the utmost importance that the fight for human rights and social acceptance continue; our younger LGBT generations need to be aware of this struggle and know that they are loved, appreciated, and have a right to identify themselves, and allowed be as happy as the next non-LGBT individual. However, if in their journey of self-discovery and awareness, they find, as many medical & socio-psychologial professionals would argue, sexuality really can't be measured in the same way acidity can be detected via a litmus test, they should also have a right to be accepted and allowed to lead full, happy lives, without fear of rebuke or retribution. I'm sure that these individuals are not seeking to unravel the work of all the dedicated LGBT activists and organizations; they are simply choosing not to be bound by definitions that, with all due respect, are still subjective and relative to the society in which they are used. (CONTINUED...)

Thanks for the reply LeNair. You may be write in t...

2012-01-07T04:49:41.210-05:00

Thanks for the reply LeNair. You may be write in that I just didn't question my sexuality earlier. Interestingly when I was at college my friends thought I was gay anyway! At least living a straight life for a bit allowed me to experience having 3 great kids - something which not enough gay men get a chance to do. Sorry your own experiences weren't so good but glad you're in a good place now. Have a great 2012.

Hi Paul, Thanks for commenting. I must correct y...

2012-01-06T10:47:25.641-05:00

Hi Paul,

Thanks for commenting.

I must correct you in the fact that the phrase "sexuality is fluid" is not "the way I mean" as you put it. It's the way those who invented and believe the phrase mean it. Hence my issue with the phrase.

I am very word-specific, and do not want to be credited with creating a phrase so synonymous with self-escapism and self-denial.

Lastly, although I'm not you, so I'm not in your head, I don't believe your sexuality ever changed over time. I believe you were always gay, but because of parents religion, etc., you just never admitted it to yourself. The same way I tried convincing myself I was straight, so I spent years suicidal in "orientation limbo" to later come to terms with my predominately gay bisexuality.

And it's the looking back on those years of being suicidal that cause me to be as passionate as I am about people being true to their orientation.

For me sexuality was fluid to a point. I spent the...

2012-01-06T05:21:09.122-05:00

For me sexuality was fluid to a point. I spent the first 35 years as a straight guy. The next 3 or 4 in a transition phase so I guess bisexual would be the label to apply whilst I came to terms with changes in my life. And now I'm 100% gay and very happy with no thought of changing back. So sexuality isn't fluid in the way you mean (i.e. switching in the short term) but it can change over time.

Anonymous, Whoever you are, I appreciate your com...

2011-11-15T16:12:50.552-05:00

Anonymous,

Whoever you are, I appreciate your comment. This is why I would like all those commenting to leave a name. Your comment is one with a wisdom that you should be proud to call yours, and share with the world you're being responsible for it.

I think you raised many important points and when ...

2011-11-15T00:55:42.989-05:00

I think you raised many important points and when you pointed out why there were not more people there I think you are right. Some people don't want to upset the status quo to attend an event like this in case some of their peers think that they are "Angry" which is always labeled at Black men.

Even when you're making a valid argument on any subject in a calm manner, people accuse us of been "Angry" or even worse "GHETTO". It's like you can't win!!!! LOL!

I do hope for the day when there is a change in how we are portrayed in the Gay Media.

Anonymous, I don't blame you. I would love to...

2011-10-31T17:08:32.038-04:00

Anonymous,

I don't blame you. I would love to take in his uncut dick. And those girls he fucks are idiots for not taking advantage of grabbing that nice butt of his while getting fucked in missionary position.

OMG! Gotta be Mr Pete!!!

2011-10-30T17:22:20.529-04:00

OMG! Gotta be Mr Pete!!!

Sorry this post is late. I would say that the ima...

2011-10-24T01:03:36.228-04:00

Sorry this post is late. I would say that the image that sticks in my mind, is from the opening scene in the bar from the movie Torch Song Trilogy with the song Dames.

I was 14 the first time I saw this movie and at the time I definately knew that I was gay. Twenty years later I still remember it well.

Eric, Excuse me, but I live in the real world, an...

2011-10-22T04:15:54.193-04:00

Eric,

Excuse me, but I live in the real world, and I've had some 3-5 inches myself. And from my experience, I've had more fun with most of them than I've had with most guys who are 9+ inches. Whoever the bottom is in your sex scenarios, I don't know what they've done to their body to be unable to enjoy them. Maybe they've followed the porn-induced lie of how "bigger is better", so their hole is too stretched out to accommodate anything small, AND they might not be doing Kegels like I always suggest to enjoy the variety.
As for their confidence, those guys with 3-5 inches need to stop being gluttons for punishment by hooking up with Grand Canyon-holed size-queens.
In my experience, most big-dicked guys just make me go through the motions and pretend they're fun.
And based on my theory, some of these guys who have these 3-5 inches might not have ended up with 3-5 inches if they had topped more often. Because the fact is the dick is a muscle. So while some dicks are naturally longer and thicker than others, others may need to play a more active role in sex in order to gain length and girth.