Wednesday, December 4, 2019

Sex Toy Review: Fun Factory Manta

My favorite non-interactive vibrating sex toy, actually combination, for penile stimulation of the glans and shaft has always been a Magic Wand Rechargeable with a Hummingbird attachment. So much so that it is also featured in one of my XTube videos. But sometimes one would like something smaller and quieter for such stimulation. With that said, I was glad to see when Fun Factory introduced The Manta.


The one thing one could easily conclude, and be right to do so, would be that the Manta is not as strong as The Magic Wand. Of course, you would be correct. Because the bigger the toy, the much higher probability of the bigger the motor. However, that doesn't mean that bigger is better.

For the Manta has a lot of features that allows it to in some ways outdo the Magic Wand and Hummingbird combo. Such as;
  • The percentage of silicone on the Manta is much higher;
  • The Manta is waterproof. So you can take it to play in the shower, or even the bathtub;
  • The Manta has more settings (6 speeds, 6 vibrations), while the Magic Wand Rechargeable has 4 speeds and 4 vibrations, and;
  • The Manta has a 2-year warranty, while all variations of the Magic Wand have only 1-year warranties. 
The smaller size of the Manta also makes it good to assist with blowjobs and even intercourse. If your partner's penis is longer than you can fully take in, you can use the Manta to stimulate the part of his penis that your body orifice (mouth, vagina, or ass) cannot take. And even if that is not an issue, the Manta's vibration traveling to its flexible wings can cup and stimulate the balls.

With me being unlike most known sex toy reviewers, I do occasionally make videos to demonstrate the sex toy. Luckily for you, this is one of those times. And you'll notice that I don't keep the Manta in the standard perceived direction of being under the shaft. I turn it around to switch up the stimulation, and lessen the boredom.

I hope you'll try the same when you get yours. Because I definitely recommend the Manta.

Monday, December 2, 2019

Sex Toy Review: Tenga Flip Orb Strong


I recently got on Tenga's mailing list of sex toy reviewers. So I now get notified when they have a new sex toy up for review. Take that plus my history of reviewing a number of their masturbation sleeves to positive reviews, it is only right to surmise that I would be quick to request the Flip Orb Strong when they notified me about it. Even though the email made me aware that it is not available here in the United States.

With that said, I was by no means disappointed. But I was surprised. For Flip Orbs are one of the least complicated designs in the Flip series. However, the pleasure it gives is still mind-blowing.

I say that to confess that when I do a standard masturbation of jerking off, I can often orgasm in a low volume that no roommates notice, or no sound at all. However, from the Flip Hole Black in my 1st Nude Dude Review, to the Spinner, the orgasms I get from Tenga toys have always made a sound-filled orgasm hard to contain.

And now I must add the Flip Orb Strong to that list.

Those elastomer-covered orbs rubbing against the shaft and head of the penis takes you to the great sensations one comes to know with Tenga male masturbation sleeves. And while the orbs are of course the main draw, the grooved walls also made of elastomer definitely help in making the Tenga Flip Orb Strong give great sensations.

As with all Tenga masturbation toys, I recommend using a water-based lube to help your back and forth motion be the another great Tenga ride. Followed by a cleaning with a water rinse, or for those like myself who feel more secure with it, use a good anti-bacterial toy cleaner or body-safe soap to clean.

Going back to my disclaimer, if you are an American reader and this review makes you want the Flip Orb Strong accessible here in the U.S., then my best advice to you is to try using the Supply & Demand law of economics to your advantage. For it is quite likely that Tenga will supply this great sex toy to the U.S. if the knowledge and curiosity becomes in great enough demand.

I, for one, feels this toys deserves worldwide distribution.

Saturday, November 30, 2019

The DISrespect of "BBC" for OVAH! Mag

In case you didn't already know, in addition to this blog, I also guest blog for 3 others: Kiiroo, Thotyssey, and now, OVAH! Mag.

My recent submission to OVAH! Mag is the very important and quite under-discussed topic of a black male being referred to as "BBC". It is under-discussed for a malicious reason, and my article examines why among other negatives regard that terminology.

So please check it out:

https://ovahmag.com/2019/11/bbc/




Tuesday, October 22, 2019

The Real on Why I Hate Poppers

If you follow me on any form of social media, then you know that I have made it no secret of my great disdain for poppers. Well, it is one thing to have a disdain for something, but it becomes a stance of arrogance to refuse an in depth explanation for that stance.
Once at The Pleasure Chest, they had a sex-ed skill-share for people wanting to be sex educators. One of the required task was to make a 10-minute presentation on a sexual topic, to which other participants gave criticisms on your presentation. The topic I chose was “Popper-Free Anal Sex”. And while I took most of the criticism well, and was actually self-aware enough to know, one criticism was substance-abuse enabling, and capitalism-driven for a sex retail space willing to sell poppers.

I was told that my calling partakers of poppers ignorant was me shaming them.

I’m sorry, but I am supposed to think that I said something wrong? For I pride myself on seeing the big picture on a matter before speaking publicly about it. Plus, when I say anything against poppers, I am talking to adults. Adults who should know better than to intentionally hold a bottle mere millimeters away from their noses to sniff. Especially since that bottle houses amyl nitrates — a chemical that if ingested any more directly (like swallowing) can result in immediate (and possibly fatal) harm to the body. Such as this doctor’s quote from a Vice article shows:

“It is not thought that amyl leads to many long-term issues, but there are some short-term risks,” Dr Boylan says. “It is possible to develop an allergic reaction over time. Another rare but serious complication is methaemoglobinaemia, which means the blood becomes unable to carry oxygen. This can be life threatening, and it happens when a person swallows rather than inhales poppers.”

Am I really supposed to coddle adults who should have the common sense to figure out just a smidgen of this information?

Take note that the person who accused me of shaming was a cis female. She does not live with seeing this ignoring of common sense repeated in her community ad nauseum. Unlike me, who sees it repeatedly since the gayness in my bisexuality has me way more so in the gay male community. Hence why I made it my topic for that event.

I feel no wrong in shaming in this instance. For if a parent is any degree worthy of the title of “parent”, then there are instances in which teaching the difference between right and wrong requires shaming you for doing the wrong. Plus what other choice does one have when common sense is often met by many popper users with an addict's aggression to defend their drug of choice. So real educators, ones not marionetted by corporate bottom lines are left to pick up where too many "gay parents" have fucked up.

Before we go any further, know that I have survived over a decade of contemplating suicide because of not owning my orientation. I did not survive and endure all of those days and nights of angst to finally come out, bottoming, then delude myself into thinking I’d be cooler if I became a substance abuser by doing poppers. Hence why I make no secret as to how since my coming out, my enjoyment of anal sex has led to me being tag-teamed by beer-can thick dicks, double-penetrated (more than twice), practically gangbanged, and still get compliments on having a tight hole. All without poppers.

My dislike of poppers is more about me wanting what every person engaging in sexual intercourse should want — — to be the center of my sex partner’s attention.

If I’m to share my sex partner’s focus, I want it to be with another human being if we’re having group sex. I don’t like the idea of sharing that focus... with a bottle? A bottle as much as 35 times shorter than me and containing a harmful substance. So the frustration that has come through much of what I’ve written about poppers over time is my concern as to why more gay males don’t want the same for themselves. And gay males are already prone to self-esteem issues as an oppressed community. So the use of poppers in my eyes becomes an acting out over those issues.

Furthermore, when one encourages another to use them, they are encouraging that person to follow a path that is counterproductive to the ongoing fights for 1)being gay, and; 2) having anal sex considered a healthy sexual practice to celebrate sexuality.

I come at this matter with such veracity because I’ve been masturbating since I was about 10 years old. Eventually I realized that fondling of myself was me introducing my body to sexual stimulation. Well, from the pleasures I got from that fondling, then playing with my butt hole once I discovered gay male sex was usually anal, I felt if those pleasant sensations were so much as an inkling of what actual sexual intercourse felt like, then I wanted nothing, nothing, NOTHING to interfere with my brain receiving the messages of how much pleasure I was feeling. Nor did I want anything to interfere with me remembering what exactly I did to my body to achieve that pleasure, so I can pass on that information to my sex partner(s) if need be. Or who gave that pleasure to me.

I find it to be absolute insanity to allow anything to interfere with that sensation. To the point that I will not date a guy who does poppers. So while some white/light-complexioned guys treat medium/dark-complexioned guys as being “good enough for a lay, but not to stay”, that’s how I treat guys who do poppers. And I feel no shame about it. For at least my discarding of such guys is based on a health-conscious decision. A behavior they can change if they choose to. Unlike the aforementioned white/light-complexioned guys whose racism and colorism makes them discard you over natural traits like darker skin and almond-shaped eyes. Therefore, beyond your control.

I personally get highly offended when I either see online profiles of guys claiming how they “can suck dick all day by doing poppers”, or seeing the actual action at a sex party/backroom by a guy on his knees sucking every dick around him and interrupting his suck with a huff of poppers. What offends me is how such a guy is lying to himself about his love of oral sex. Anyone who claims to “need” poppers to better their endurance of oral sex is telling themselves a lie.

For I love giving blowjobs. If you put 5 hot guys in front of me with their dicks out, I’ll suck on their dicks so long that my jowls might look like those of Kanye West by the end of it. And I don’t need to huff on poppers to suck on them that long. My love of sucking dick, those guys’ sex appeal, and my ego about my oral prowess is all the drive I need.

I’m sure some feel that I owe no one this explanation. After all, the term “poppers” alone is illegal is some places because it shows illegal intent to use amyl nitrates by huffing. Even XTube is aware of this fact. Hence why I had to change the title in the description for my XTube video embedded in “Poppers! We Don’t Need No Stinkin’ Poppers!” For XTube has outlawed the use of the word “poppers” on their site. Even if the purpose of the word is to eradicate poppers itself.

However, what motivates me to give this explanation is because poppers have so heinously infiltrated the gay male community, it is seeping into the anal sex lives of straight people as well… But by the misleading advice of gay males who were advised by the misled before them. So it is an ugly passing of a spiked baton showing that this substance abuse is an epidemic. One that a detailed explanation of one’s adversity to poppers might be one of the last stitch efforts to eradicate this interference to our anal-sex-loving lives.

With all this, am I bragging? In order to get the message through, YES.

So join me so that I will have no reason or right to brag. For doing such great sexual feats will instead become for all of us in the anal sex-loving community, a common place statement of being. Thereby making bragging become wasted breath. But right now, my bragging is still necessary.

Wednesday, October 9, 2019

Sex Personified


What makes a man "sex personified"?

Well, before I give my answer, to prove that my including myself in the above collage is not me being arrogant thinking I'm all that, let me recall what happened to me to make me consider the reality of such a thing, and start seeing it in others.

Way back when the NYC gay bar/club Splash was around, one night I was as usual, dancing alone. Still celebrating my being out. It might have been about a year before I got into porn. Anyway, this cute European guy comes to the dancefloor with 2 females. As much as I wanted to stare and hopefully make eye contact, I didn't try because he was with the 2 females.

You see, I don't try to court guys at a bar/club known for hook-ups when I know they are with friends. That's because it is often the case that they are either looking out for the friends, or following the lead of the friends. Which in turn makes those friends become the biggest cock-blockers. And this instance might not have been any different.

For as I said, I was dancing all by myself. He was with the females about 4 - 6 ft. away. Then my peripheral vision saw him starting to approach me. I was hoping that this was him making the 1st move. Once he got right by me, I turned to look directly at him. He then initiated speaking by saying...

"YOU ARE SEX! You're like,...", while looking me up and down as in awe, he concluded by saying, "...the whole thing! You are just so beautiful. I had to say that to you."

I smiled and thanked him, and then he just simply turned around and went back to the 2 females he came in with. Never saying another word to me. So I'm left standing there thinking, "Uh,... what the fuck just happened?"

Because he left me so bewildered, I never took what he said to heart. I just thought of him as a drunk Euro boy who made himself dismissable by being drunk. Then things started to happen in my life to make me more aware of my sex appeal. Things that made me have to wonder... why did he just break from his group like that, say those words to me, then walk away? In his eyes, was my beauty, or my aura that striking that it compelled him to do that? If there is any truth to the saying, "a drunk man's words are a sober man's truth", then the answer is YES. And there have been numerous instances since confirming it.

Such as while I was an extra on Michael Lucas' "Dangerous Liaisons", some of the pornstars kept looking over at me. I was standing far enough away from people that there was no way to confuse myself as to where they were looking, or who they were looking at.... Except maybe behind me. So I turned around to look. All to have to say to myself, "Nope, no one there. So their eyes are on YOU!"

Or as I wrote a few years ago about how I'll go to sex parties where all the guys there are being wallflowers. However, when I finally find someone to my liking, and have sex with them, then the wallflowers stop being wallflowers. To the extent that I have witnessed guys who were wallflowers simultaneously when I arrived start having sex with each other.

And even today, I will get on the bus or train, and walk in the door to see sometimes males, sometimes females, and sometimes both... stop and stare at me in adoration. Or see a guy being arm and arm with his girlfriend or wife. As I'm in my spot listening to music, reading a book, or just being to my thoughts, I'll suddenly feel eyes on me. Then in my peripheral vision, I'll discover that those eyes on me... are from the guy from the straight couple.

He'll be looking me up and down. Making a full assessment of me from head to toe. Then out of guilt, start a public display of affection with his female partner. OR his woman will start some PDA knowing good and darn well that she'll never confront him about checking out a man.

As stated before, this is not me being arrogant. This is just me being observant of people's actions around me, and when I've unsuspectedly have become involved in those actions. Plus, if I was arrogant about this, I wouldn't me willing to admit and admire that there are others who seem to have that same kind of presence.

The presence that makes a man (or woman) sex personified. Someone having a sexual aura that makes sexuality come to the forefront of many minds as soon as that person walks into a space. Consuming the admirer to the point that the admirer considers crossing their taught boundaries of color, ethnic preference, or even their degree of straight or gay.

It is a reality, and that is where the poem "Sex Personified" is born from.

Wednesday, October 2, 2019

Imagining I'm Riding Thunder's Wood

This is the tweet from Thunder Woods that started it all:
Thunder Woods and I have been following each other on Twitter for a good while now. The cum pig that I am  has been enjoying all of the jerk & cumshot videos he's been posting with many of his tweets, including the aforementioned tweet. In fact, the way that tweet started it all is because from that angle, I realized how much his cock was shaped like the Neo Elite from Blush Novelties that I own. Here this tweet I posted in response and his response that followed:

So I decided that since I don't like to disappoint Twitter followers that I'd love to have a good fuck with, I decided to make a video of me using the Neo Elite. I was a bit busy at the time, so it took awhile for me to make good on that desire for myself. However, during that putting it off, I began to come up with other ideas to make imagining Thunder Woods' cock throbbing and shooting a load in my ass even more fun.
Such as using my using my double-sided suction cup from NY Toy Collective to attached the Neo Elite dildo to a We-Vibe Wish. A trick that can be done with just about any dildo with a base to turn a non-vibrating dildo into a vibrating one. The difficult part became trying to stuff the Wish into my Liberator Bon Bon. But I got it in, then I got that dildo in me.... While watching one of Thunder Wood's cumshot videos.

So that's enough backstory. Sit back and enjoy the ride of watching me ride. 😉

Thursday, September 26, 2019

Sex For Toy Testing


Every sex toy reviewer has a process as to how they go about reviewing a sex toy. Some do it solo. Some do it with a partner, which works best when the toy is marketed to and can only be used effectively for review purposes by a couple. However, since most sex toys are made for masturbation and foreplay, reviewing a sex toy alone is the best. Primarily because it eliminates focusing on a partner's pleasure, which can be a distraction if that partner is not the test subject. Reviewing it alone makes you the sole collector of the information, therefore better focused on the details to help readers and viewers of the review.

I revealed details of my review process before in a couple of posts. Namely when I reviewed the Kiiroo Titan, and most recently when reviewing We-Vibe's Vector. This gave me the idea for you readers to see if possible the exact videos I have used for my review. Hence this post from my Facebook page:

So now there is a playlist on my Pornhub account featuring as many videos as I could find that I have used to masturbate to for my sex toy reviews. And yes, for various reasons, be it the studios, scenario, or porn actor's habits, some criteria in the video go against what I stand for. So the way I'm able to watch them is by following the rules of my poem "When I Masturbate". Using my imagination to think of those criteria being more up to my level or synonymous with my traits.

Such as how most of the porn on that list is straight porn, which much to many jaded gays chagrin, I have stated that there is nothing wrong with such a fantasy, as long as you don't try to impose upon a self-proclaimed sexual orientation in order to make it a reality. Hence why I've fantasized that the guy having straight sex is putting his cock in my male ass, then shooting his cumload deep inside it. Or imagine a pornstar I've never seen with a black person having sex with my sexy chocolate self.

So click on the "link between the teasing gifs "Sex For Toy Testing" and see the scene those gifs are made from and more to get deeper into my sex toy review process. You'll see what along with the sex toy contributed to my orgasm.

Thursday, September 19, 2019

Sex Toy Review: We-Vibe Vector


The folks at We-Vibe have long been kind in recognizing me as a voice in the sex industry. So when I had a question about their new prostate massager, Vector, they extended that kindness by sending me one for review, and to find the answer myself.

Before even receiving my Vector, at my day job at The Pleasure Chest, I led quite a few customers away from LELO's remote-controlled prostate massager Hugo to We-Vibe's Vector. Simply by stating 3 key differences between the 2 remote prostate massagers that work in Vector's favor:

  1. BIG price difference. An unjust price difference taking into account the next 2 differences;
  2. We-Connect app makes the Vector able to be controlled beyond the usual 30 ft. limit of remotes, and create your own pattern;
  3. The Vector is adjustable. Making it more easily to truly hit one's prostate. Or g-spot if one chooses to use it vaginally.
Now that I have received a Vector of my own, I am please to announce that all of these differences have been proven correct. And pleasingly so.

As a little revelation of my review process, when I'm reviewing a sex toy, I masturbate while watching porn. As I have said in the past, it is usually straight porn. And whether I'm using a sex toy or not, I try to make my masturbation session last as long as the 1st male ejaculation in the porn scene. This is where the adjustability of the Vector comes into play.

For my adjusting the Vector stimulated my prostate so much that I didn't even make it to 18 minutes of the 28 1/2 minute scene I was watching before I orgasmed. So this toy hit the spot that good.

To backtrack, the question I asked about the Vector was as to whether or not it responded to the FeelMe app. In hope of perhaps another great masturbation session like I had with We-Vibe's dual stimulator Nova. Unfortunately, the answer to that question is NO. However, based on the outcome I mentioned while watching the porn I used to test the Vector (pictured above), I am not at all mad.

All that said, I highly recommend We-Vibe Vector. Any sex toy that can make me lose the control I have taught myself to have over my orgasms while watching porn I believe is definitely a toy worth investing in.

Vector by We-Vibe

Tuesday, September 17, 2019

Sex Toy Review: Gläs 7" Curved Glass Dildo

There are really no special features to the Gläs 7" Curved Glass Dildo. that make it unlike most products of its kind. It is not electronic. The solid glass is compatible with all lubricants. It is accepting of heat and cold for temperature play. However, it should not be exposed to extreme heat or cold for that will cause it to break. No better than any other glass dildos.

So the reason I am writing this review is because after posting about my purchase of this dildo on my Instagram, I quickly received messages from followers reiterating what had kept me from trying out a glass dildo for so long.

Their concerns was over breakage.

The fact is though that this dildo is solid glass. Borosilicate glass to be more exact, which is fracture-resistant. It will not cause a trip to the emergency room like a glass bottle or jar which can break and shatter from the tightness of the anus and rectum. Many more females than males seem to be more aware of this. Hence why glass sex toys tend to be more marketed to females, which leads to the only negative I have in this review about this product--- their unnecessary gender-specific marketing.

For this dildo is called a "Curved Glass G-Spot Dildo". Meanwhile, with me being a cisgendered male, I do not have a g-spot. I instead have a prostate, or p-spot. And while the smoothness made the dildo go in easy, the curve of this glass dildo stimulated my prostate just as effectively as it is marketed to stimulated a female's g-spot. So the only male that would try this product is one with enough knowledge of sexual anatomy to think outside of this product's box when it is presented to him. Therefore, like most gender-specific marketing, this company puts themselves in the position to lose patronage they should be willing to gain.

In any case, for all males concerned about a glass dildo, as long as you are dealing with solid glass, like borosilicate, no one of any gender has reason to fear breakage from a glass dildo.  The only fear would be if you chip it by dropping it or cracking it by putting it under extreme weight. Otherwise. I think males into anal play should start putting more thought into investing in a glass dildo such as this.


Tuesday, September 10, 2019

Sex Toy Review: Thruster Mini

I recently bought the Thruster Mini by Velvet CoCK. I must admit that the accordion like neck made me a bit hesitant. This hesitation was to no fault of Velvet CoCK's designing. It was actually because of a previous purchase I made of an anal sex toy with a similar design.

For that other toy also had an accordion design in the neck, which in me caused a pinching of my rectal walls. An unkind sensation that I said in my review that I submitted to The Pleasure Chest would happen to anyone with a rectum tight enough to engulf the entire shape of anything entered into it. With that said, what made me give the Thruster Mini a try was the fact that unlike that other toy, the thrusting part is not meant to be put inside the body.

The Thruster Mini is made of silicone, so it will not harbor bacteria after cleaning, and can only be used with water-based and silicone-based lubricants. Do not use silicone-based lubes on a silicone toy. For it will destroy the toy, thereby void the warranty. It is also water-resistant, which means it can be taken into the shower, but it cannot be submerged into a tub.

The insertable part of the Thruster Mini's shaft is 5" long. A length which is quite comparable to the length of the highly respected Aneros' prostate massagers. Add to that the ability for the shaft to be bent up to 30º, I became hopeful that the Thruster Mini would do that thrusting towards the prostate. And it did not disappoint.

For in the XTube video below, about 3 minutes into it, I assume the missionary position. What you of course can't see is that due to the angle at which I held the Liberator Bon Bon that the Thruster Mini is in, the Thruster Mini did in fact stimulate my prostate. Hence the quivering orgasm seem by the end of the video. So if it was able to be curved to hit my prostate, there is no doubt it can be curved to hit a female's G-spot.


LeNair Xavier Gets Thrusted powered by XTube

With a present retail value of $149, the Thruster Mini is by no means a cheap sex toy. However, I do recommend it for both males and females. Anyway, it does say "Unisex" on the box. Making this one case where a sex toy company did not lie about the usefulness of their product, and that gets many stars in my book.

Monday, August 5, 2019

Sex Toy Review: Tenga Spinner


I recently bought this new masturbation sleeve from Tenga. It's called the Spinner.

I have long been a fan of Tenga toys. To the extent that over the years, I have had 3 products from their Flip Hole series, both Flexes, and one from their Tenga 3D series. In fact, when it comes to Flip Holes, if you have been following me long enough, then you'll recall that my very 1st Nude Dude Review was of the Tenga Flip Hole Black. So I was very much looking forward to trying this sex toy out.

The Spinners comes in 3 different textures. So I had to first decide which texture I wanted. I often go for what I suspect to be the most intense, so I went for #3 Shell.

I must confess that while buying this product, I was the typical male and didn't read any of the details about it on the website. If I had, then I would have already had my question answered as to why is the Spinner called "Spinner".

Good thing this time it was only over a masturbation sleeve. 😄

It is called "Spinner" because when you stroke it, the coils cause the toy to do a slight twist around your cock. It is enough of a twist to cause heightened sensations.

The downside to the Spinner is the very thing that gives it that unique ability to twist when stroked - the coil. For the coil restricts how girthy a penis the Spinner can accommodate. Lucky for me, I don't have that problem. For even without seeing the many pics of me online with frontal nudity, I have always described my penis to not be big, not small, just simply proportionate to my 5'6", approx. 150 lbs. frame. So my penis seems to have a size that fits perfectly inside the Spinner.

As for the orgasm it creates, what I've experienced is an orgasm common to my experience with Tenga toys. Hence why I have had so many over the years.

Most of my masturbatory orgasms can be pretty quiet. However, with the Spinner, like almost all other Tenga toys, I have an orgasm with which I can't keep quiet. Because it is just that good and intense a release.

To close, going back to the size, it is small enough to be total inconspicuous during travel. Not just the size of the toy, but the casing it comes in as well. For closed in its casing, it looks like a small bottle of roll-on antiperspirant.

So now you know, the Tenga Spinner is a compact masturbation sleeve that delivers mind-blowing orgasms that if you're traveling, you don't have to (nor will you want to) leave at home.😉 

Tuesday, July 16, 2019

Fuck Train Engine


In my blog article "Evolution of My Bottoming", I mentioned how the French guy I was with made me the front of a fuck train, while he was the center. And how he was such a skilled center in picking up the rhythm of the guy at the end (the caboose) that I could feel the fuck rhythm changed when that last guy entered. That made me also reminisce about a couple of 3somes I had with a hot couple in Harlem. And how I experienced the same shift of who was running the fuck rhythm because of them being that much of a sexually in-tuned couple.

With that said, as far as my sexual history goes, I have been the engine, the passenger car, and the caboose of a fuck train. However, my favorite part is being the front - the engine.

After a social media posting, I was reminded that there have been a number of misinterpretations of what a fuck train is. Mostly because guys hear a term, and don't properly investigate the exact details of its meaning..OR they make up a term just to so their male sexual ego can say they made something. This has led to many confusing a "fuck train" with the terminology of "running a train on" someone. I personally feel the term "running a train" is quite idiotic because it is already what is succinctly and more appropriately referred to as a "gangbang".

So I made this drawing to give a visual of what a fuck train is. As for the color of the bodies, it's my way of giving a big "FUCK YOU" to the narrow-minded perception bestowed on us by porn. For all of the fuck trains seen in porn make it seem that only white males are sexually adventurous enough to participate in a real fuck train.
Plus, a real pleasurable fuck train is only 3 bodies. Not 4 or more. These 2 pictures may look hot because of the vast number of men being sexually charged simultaneously counters so many forms of sexual represssion. However, in actuality, it's another stint of a porn director living vicariously through his performers. Telling them to do something that may look sexy optically, but is by no means pleasurable in real life. For the too many bodies make it is a ball of confusion.


Well, truth be told, my fuck train experiences have been pretty much the skin color scheme I drew. I was the front of the fuck train with the medium skin tone; the guy in me was lighter complexioned, and the guy who was the caboose has always been the darkest. This was never intentional. It just worked out that way. And I'm quite proud of it because the diverse skin tones show how being sexually adventurous is not a market cornered by one skin color.


With that said, I am well aware that I am not the greatest artist in the world. I've been drawing since I was in kindegarten, but fell off from improving my skill. However, I do maintain enough skill to make my drawings say what they need to say. And in this case, it is to say...

THIS IS A FUCK TRAIN.

Friday, June 14, 2019

My Dick Fucked With A Finger Fuck

Before Instagram unceremoniously disabled my former account, I posted a video of me wearing the Finger Fuck from OxBalls to incite interest of me doing one of my Nude Dude Review videos for it.
Well, I never got around to doing that review video. However, I did make a Nude Dude Review video of sorts 😉...

You see, to many, by the name of it, you would think the Finger Fuck is only good for giving, well... a finger fuck. However, its various textures for each finger also make it a great sex toy for jerking off. As you will see in the video, there are points where I switch up the fingers my cock slides in between.
Keep in mind that I also lubed up the glove inside as well. And I strongly advise using a water-based lube. For I will admit to my bad of breaking the rules and using a silicone lube during the first time I played with a Finger Fuck. It was a last resort to enjoy the Finger Fuck because all of the water-based lubes I had at the time were being absorbed by the skin of my dick too quickly. So that one mistake has led to a small tear in between 2 of the fingers. A tear small enough to not make the toy useless as you will see.

This was before discovering Sutil, which is what I used in the video. And you can see how long it lasted. For while you see the video has fading transitions, which often indicate a passing of time in between, I never did a re-application of the Sutil. Those transitions were simply editing to cut down the time of the video from the nearly 13 minutes it would have been without editing its length since I was stroking my cock to fit the duration of the sex in the porn scene I was watching.

So take this post and my naked jerk-off in the video below as my Nude Dude Review. And let the cumshot (then jolt) be even more of an endorsement. 😉🍆💦


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Saturday, May 25, 2019

Evolution of My Bottoming

Back in my porn days, during one of my too many visits to Lucas Entertainment, Michael Lucas asked me if I could cum while being fucked. I told him sometimes. Well, the fact is that was a lie... then.

It's quite rare that I lie, but one of the few times I do is when I'm giving answers about myself that are lies at the time, but will actually be my truth in the future. So the reason I tell the lie is not out of an intent to lie, but because I can foresee that future so clearly that I refuse to verbalize how it is untrue at that present time.

With that said, as much as I hate to lie and being lied to, what I know of Michael Lucas and my own history of dealing with him makes me feel no regret about that lie.

Especially since a recent trip to CumUnion made that lie about myself back then finally become my truth today.

My French playmate pounded away at me, and I realized that my dick was semi-hard. That is not unusual when I bottom. But I am never compelled to jerk off. I'm always about enjoying the dick, and letting that be where all of my sexual pleasure comes from. This time, I decided to go for it. As soon as I started jerking off, I could feel my physical orgasm coming. In fact, it grew in me slowly getting me to the point of ejaculation. And when it happened, I thought, "Oh my God, it's happening! HOW is this happening???".

I could feel the cum start oozing from my dick and onto the side of my finger. Then an even greater shock happened... I wasn't done.

I kept cumming. With the intensity of the orgasms growing, leading my cum load to grow as well. I surmise it was a cumload like the one from me playing with my SackJack.

However, even with that heightened intensity, I still wanted my playmate to keep his dick sliding back and forth in my ass tunnel. He did. And with not one single request to stop from me.


I have never been one who could masturbate while bottoming, then shoot a cumload. I could however do it while using an anal sex toy. With that, I always surmised that it was because, unlike with a human being, while using a sex toy, one doesn't have to focus on an actual human being's needs, desires, and in-the-flesh beauty for sexual fulfillment at that moment. But even without cumming from jerking off during sex, the sex still usually satisfied me. So I resolved myself to how the mental orgasm I spoke of in an article for Thotyssey is what I would always have with a guy.

I always wondered though that if and when I finally jerked off and came while bottoming if I was going to be one of those guys who once they orgasmed, would they end the sex. Thankfully, that was not the case.

This concerned me because as I have said before, if I'm getting good dick, I become an insatiable power bottom.

Keyword - INSATIABLE. Meaning keep going because their is no ending to this pleasure for me.

For I have always loved, loved, LOVED, LOVED  a hot guy's dick in my ass. Hating when the time comes that he has to take it out because life happens.

So I always feared a physical orgasm from my body's penile satisfaction while bottoming would make me go back on my word. Since the typical response to a male's penile orgasm includes an end to the sex. The mental orgasm I get knowing the pleasure my body is giving my sex partner allows the sex to continue.

We later sat cuddled together on the sofa upstairs. Just enjoying sharing a space with each other. I know it sounds romantic, even though it was a sex party. But that's the kind of energy I give off.

My sexual energy gives off my true view of sex - a physical and spiritual connection. Many gay males don't have the depth and/or maturity to handle that even at a sex party. If they're a top, their hard-ons are sparked by guys who they see as empty vessels to take their cock in. And if they're bottoms, they're holes widen for guys who they see as empty vessels who don't really care about in who they put their dicks. In any case, even if they talk to the person, such actions shows that they are drawn to someone who has less respect for their own humanity.

Anyway, we got so comfortable that neither one of us realized that we had both fallen asleep. We woke up because the party's host came upstairs to announce that the venue was preparing for Encore, the after-hours party held Fridays and Saturdays at Paddles. The host saw us on the sofa as he headed back downstairs. Teasing us by asking "When's the wedding?", because the last time my playmate was in New York, we met up at Paddles, and the host saw us cuddled together then as well. Like I said, I give off that kind of sexual energy, and a sweet few are deep and mature enough to embrace it.

Luckily, that nap re-energized us. We saw the after-hours crowd come in and be horny as fuck. We watched, but never got up from the sofa to get involved. I liked his naked skin against mine so I kept stroking his thigh, and occasionally kissing his chest as I leaned on it, and reached up to kiss his neck. The entire time, he kept stroking my shoulder and kissing on me.

Knowing he is inspired by watching people fuck, I started fondling his dick and balls, even before the after-hours crowd arrived. He was getting semi-erect before then. But once the after-hours crowd came in, he got harder, and harder.

What really sparked him into action was how while I was on my playmate's left, a Black guy was getting a blowjob to his right. The Black guy and my playmate started touching each other. The Black guy reached to include me, and I reciprocated by rubbing the smooth skin of his forearm, and reaching across my playmate so I could continue the travel of my hand to reach and massage the Black guy's shoulder.

This went on long enough that my playmate's dick got rock-hard and wanted to fuck my hole yet again. He was trying to include the Black guy by having the Black guy fuck him while he fucked me. You see, my playmate is actually quite skilled in a fuck-train. Hence the following tweet the following afternoon:

However, the Black guy never took my playmate up on the invitation. So it was just me and my playmate once again. That re-energizing nap led to my playmate thrusting into my ass for what must have been about an hour or more in various parts of Paddles. Eventually, he came inside me. I could feel the throbs of his cock as he let out his load. This was when I went back to a mental orgasm. Because at no point during that entire hour (or more) of bottoming did I stroke my cock. I was so turned on by his body in me and on me that I needed nothing else to stimulate me.

In any case, I'm thinking back on the pleasure of both Acts I and II. Learning I can now get off by both a mental and physical orgasm. This leads to new sexual information about my bottoming that I didn't know before.

So now, there is versatility within my versatility. 😉

Monday, May 13, 2019

Anal Muscle Memory - Trained, Gained & Maintained

I was recently watching an anal sex tutorial on Instagram given by a sex toy company I follow. There was some great misinformation given that I took great offense to hearing.

He said that it is a myth that the anus and vagina get stretched out, for they have muscle memory. Therefore, stretched out holes like the gaping holes you see in some anal sex scenes in porn will fall back into place.

First of all, keep in mind that you are just watching a porn scene. Your penis is not the one actually feeling that hole's firmness or looseness. That is why they are porn "actors". They have to make viewers believe that every mouth, penis, vagina, and butthole you see them play with is the best they have ever encountered, even when it's far from it. With that said, realize that a gaping hole in a porn scene does not always return to being a tight hole. Sometimes the reason it is gaping is because it has been put through enough to be easily made gaping by the slightest entry of any sized penis and/or sex toy. For not every porn actor does kegels and various other exercises to maintain the butthole's tightness, like I have admitted to for years.

This is a point that was not immediately made during the tutorial. And trust me, I waited for it. Way longer than I should have. Not saying that point immediately further enabled viewers to see porn actors as the sex superheroes we should not be holding them up to be. And as a former porn actor myself, that says a lot.

My being offended by this misinformation was heightened by the fact that the person teaching the tutorial... was my former manager. The person who trained me in my working the salesfloor at the sex shop I work at.

All that I write is based on biological facts about the sexual anatomy and psychological facts about the sexual mind that cannot be easily refuted. Even if people think that what I say is just my opinion, proving that it is just my opinion is quite hard to do. Hence why I have yet to be confronted with such an argument.

However, what my former manager said can be easily refuted.

Such as how the anus has muscle memory, so it can get used to being penetrated, then fall back into place. Yes, it can get used to being penetrated. The part that is misinformation in that tutorial is how after penetration, everything falling back into place is not always the case. For while the anus is a muscle, muscle memory for being penetrated has to be trained, gained, and maintained. Therefore, if such steps are not taken, it can be pushed to the point of losing its firmness. Especially when someone tries to imitate the unsafe practices of porn. I say "unsafe" because porn actors don't always train their bodies well. For of the many lose holes I have put my penis into, some of them have been those of porn actors.

In that tutorial, the trait of the anus having muscle memory was also compared to how the vagina also has muscle memory. Again, also true - initially. However, the vagina as well can be pushed to an extreme where it does not return to its original firmness. Like the anus, fisting; a gangbang with no breaks to do a small bit of firmness exercises; not being relaxed during penetration by a penis and/or sex toy; double penetration; and the forced entry of rape, add to that the birthing of a child can all contribute to a loss of firmness. For all of these are stresses to those orifices that require some level of exercises as after-care to maintain that muscle memory. Hence why all well-regarded sex shops sell kegel balls and kegel exercisers. Even electronic stimulation sex toys for internal play can help. Due to the fact that the electronic stimulation will cause the muscles to contract.

I was so offended by seeing this information not being given that I felt my fingers twitching to type a response to the absence of such vital information for great anal play. However, knowing myself, I realized that my response would have been quite verbally explosive in calling out such misinformation. Hence why I took this route in addressing it instead.

Such misinformation is why I have always said my job has not taught me everything. I knew a great deal about sexual anatomy before working there. Especially in regards to anal sex. From reading and personal experience. And the reason I can easily debunk that instructor's claims is more so from personal experience, but also from common sense within the sex toy industry.

Now, if any of what I said was addressed in that tutorial after I tuned out, then as I stated earlier, it should have been said immediately after stating how the anus and vagina have muscle memory. Otherwise, it will lead to the misinformed actions that I am writing this post to prevent.

Tuesday, May 7, 2019

Satisfied By SatisfyerMen... On OnlyFans???


Back in July 2018, I wrote the blog article "The Social Destruction of Fan Paysite Pornstars". I still very much stand behind my position in that article, in which I criticized studio-based pornstars for not allowing themselves the right amount of downtime a porn performer needs to have mentally and emotionally healthy sex.



As there are many with so little of a life that they like to start drama, I'm sure such a post has some ready to scream, "HYPOCRITE!"

Well, with my abhorrence for hypocrisy, I can assure you that there is none here in my having an OnlyFans page. Primarily, because of the issue I stated in the post. And since I am no longer doing studio-based porn, the idea of a OnlyFans, JustForFans, and the like is an option I'm free to explore without being a hypocrite.

A lesser way I avoid hypocrisy is because at this point, subscribing to my OnlyFans page is FREE. I feel why should I charge for it when I haven't done so for as long as I have had XTube, RedTube, and Pornhub accounts. Hence why you don't need an OnlyFans account to see the 1st video I've uploaded there. That same video in its 7 minutes and 20 seconds entirety is also on my XTube and RedTube accounts.

Because I like what I do. I like to erotically stimulate people. And although I'm nowhere near rich, knowing you like it at this juncture is all the payment I need.

The reason I made an OnlyFans page is because I thought at some point I would make a video, and post it on there to test myself. And testing myself is what I always do. In this case, testing to see if I was going to be a hypocrite or not. Do I really want to make you pay for porn that is a peek into my personal sex life? An act I have long spoken against.

For my desire to do porn in all of its various art forms has always been to incite a safe space for those questioning their orientation, feel comfortable in their desire to be exhibitionists, and embrace the body they are in, whatever size or color that body comes in, as long as it's healthy. So the porn I do is to flip the bird to the sizes, colors, and shades that the media overhype as sexy despite their healthiness.

With all that said, clicking on the pick below will take you to my 1st OnlyFans upload. Enjoy.

Friday, April 26, 2019

Evolution of My Topping

After losing my virginity in 2002, I was a total bottom for about 2 years. Always knowing that eventually I would become versatile, but for the moment, I was a total bottom, and okay with that. That is why I always tells customers in the sex shop to be patient with themselves for whatever their goal may be.

Once I started topping, I always said that after 2 years of being a total bottom that in my versatility I am a much better bottom than top. No matter what percentage of being a top or bottom I was, even when my versatility reached 50/50, and a good number of playmates praising me as a top, I still felt my skill set made me a much better bottom.

I recently had 2 encounters with which I saw myself becoming more confident in my topping skills. An evolution, if you will. The signs of this evolution might not seem obvious at first, but I will explain how so, and why it is for the better later.


The first incident happened at The Cock. I was behind a curtain, and this guy was sucking me off. Right next to me was a short hottie that I've played with before. As he watched me get my cock sucked, he laid on his back on the bench while playing with his hole. The blowjob was pretty good, but watching that short hottie play with his hole made me rock hard, and needing to be engulfed by not a mouth, but the 98.6 degree and rising warmth of a hungry bottom's ass tunnel.

The past times I topped the short hottie, he assumed the position to be topped doggy style. Being the ass-man that I am, that made it easier to get turned on, start fucking him, and keep fucking him. This time however, seeing him in position to bottom in missionary made me want him right away. My craving wasn't to look at his ass while inside it. No, it was solely about being inside him. Seeing the beauty of his ass was no longer a crutch to get me hard and keep me hard. Just the thought of being inside him in any position was all I needed.

Before I'm called a hypocrite regarding Rule #5 in my rules of blowjob etiquette, I initially was planning to give my dick to the guy giving me a blowjob. But he was sucking me for so long that he seemed like sucking my cock was all he wanted to do. A man that is going to be worth my interest knows to do as I do - stop sucking to check on his playmate to see if he eventually wants that cock made hard by a cocksucker so it can go in his cocksucker's ass, like it should be. This guy never checked in with me for that. He was sucking me for all eternity and I was getting bored by it. As I mentioned before, he sucked it pretty good, but he never offered his asshole. My playmate from my past laying on the bench next to me did offer his asshole.

I went in my pouch and got out some lube to put on my cock. I then slid my cock inside him and started pounding with so much passion. A degree of a passion I've done while topping doggy style, but never in missionary. The more he moaned in pleasure. The more I touched his bare skin not covered by his harness and jockstrap. The more I wrapped my arms around him to go deeper inside him. It all made me not want to stop. But I did stop, so I wouldn't come. Because I have a feeling that if I did come, I would not have stopped. I would have probably shot a raw load in his ass, and kept pumping so I could try and shoot another. Fucking him so long that the lights would come on in the bar because of it nearing closing time.

The other instance happened at a Milk Chocolate NYC party.

I had already topped from behind while standing this sexy guy who was around my height. The entire time I thrusted into the soft cheeks of his ass, as much as I loved looking down to see those cheeks squeeze with my every inward thrust, I wanted him on his back. So I could look in his eyes right below those sexy eyebrows.

Later on in the night, he and a guy that he and I both had bottomed for earlier were sitting on a sofa in the space. Another guy put his legs up and started fucking the hottie. This put the thought back in my head of how much I wanted to look in his eyes while my cock is inside that amazing ass. Then the other guy stopped. So my chance opened up. And when this hottie saw my hard cock eager to get in him again, he opened his ass up along with that chance.

I got on my knees and put my hard cock inside him, with his legs leaning on my shoulders. He lit up the deeper I went in. And when I started pumping into him, he lit up even more. Maybe because my cock was also swelling from feeling his body hair and playing with his big dick. In any case, his being pleased was undeniable for me to see because I was looking right into his eyes.

So how do these 2 occurrences show that I am evolving in my topping skills?

I have long been saying that sex is not just a physical connection, but also a spiritual connection. The latter is one many gay males try to deny. Hence why doggy-style is the most common position at a sex party or backroom. For both connections exist even in a backroom/sex party tryst, and doggy-style, while a great position for a top to view the ass he is pumping into, it also helps a top avoid looking into his sex partner's eyes, which are windows to the soul.

With that said, those 2 encounters with me craving, then being a top in missionary shows me evolving because before then, my spiritual connection that I said was part of sex was obtained in my mind, but less obtained by our sexual position. Therefore, giving no guarantee as to whether or not the spiritual connection that was obtained before the sex was truly maintained during the sex. By me topping in missionary, a more intimate position, I have now evolved to obtaining that spiritual connection by more physical and definite means. A position where my playmate and I look each other in the eyes. Where we can see the beauty of healthy lust, and ask for more. Or see its ugliness and part ways soon after.

Since in addition to being horny, I need to vibe with positive sexual energy from the person(s), I believe the lust we'll have will most definitely be the beauty of healthy lust.

Tuesday, April 23, 2019

Nathaniel, R-U A Rapist?

For the first time in awhile, I went to the NYC gay bar, The Eagle for their Jockstrap Happy Hour. At this event, proceeds go to a charity by way of a $5 cover as most patrons strip down to usually a jockstrap or some other kind of underwear and enjoy cocktails, beers, conversation, and flirtation. Most guests from my experience partake of these things well and act respectfully towards one another's personal space. However, there is often someone with such a rabid level of social ineptitude that they can ruin it for someone.

Well, on this night, the name of the person with the rabid social ineptitude was Nathaniel.

I paid my cover and entered the bar. In less than a minute, this tall, slim black male came up to me introducing himself by saying "Hi, I'm Nathaniel". Even though I don't know my degree of celebrity, knowing that I have some at all still makes me wonder if such an abrupt introduction is either a social media follower or someone seeing me as an Average Joe.

He immediately offered to buy me a drink, and I refused. I shouldn't have to explain why I refused. However, since using one another is such a commonality in gay society endorsed by its media, nightlife, and porn, An explanation for my refusal is necessary before I continue.

When a guy offers to buy you a drink, he wants something. If you don't want conversation with him, don't accept the drink. If you don't want to kiss him, don't accept the drink. If you don't want to end up having sex with him,... DON'T ACCEPT THE FUCKING DRINK!!! So in practicing what I preach, I refused. Because your sex appeal in that person's eye (and/or their desperation) is what got you the offer. And I'm not going to let my sex appeal get me something from someone who I know wants something in return, but I have no intent of giving what they want to them. That's what justifies Karma's action when she takes your sex appeal away by way of your subconscious guilt making you age poorly.

Anyway, after my refusal, he persisted in trying to talk to me. I said I just got here, and I wanted to settle myself first. He seemed to get the hint. He told me to enjoy my evening, then walked away. As I was waiting, I was so in a rush to get in the bar that I forgot I needed to use the restroom. So I went. When I returned, I went to the opposite end of the bar. Once there, Nathaniel came back, and started talking to me again. And it wasn't like he was approaching me out of drunkenness that made him forget we met just a few minutes earlier. He was well aware that we spoke before because this time, he did not introduce himself.

In response to whatever he said, there were many things I said that made it clear that if I was to entertain his company at any point, that moment was not the time. Such as how a few times when he said that it seems like I had a wall up, one time I responded by saying, "I do. Because I don't know. It comes down the more I get to know you." In whatever various ways I said that, I told him the truth each time. Another time in his rambling I responded by telling him, "When I first walk into a space, I like to assess the room. Get a feel for it. And to focus and get an honest assessment, I like to do that alone. Hence why I often go places solo."

He still kept talking to me. In fact, he even furthered his closing into my personal space. For most of the time, he was leaning against the bar with his left hand. Leaning into me at a less than 45 degree angle, which was inciting my porn-induced PTSD to do something drastic.

With hindsight being 20/20, I think one of the things that saved him from a heinous reaction was the fact that my porn-induced PTSD is incited more by being actually touched, which even in his close proximity to my body, he never did.

As he kept getting such responses from me defending my justified personal space, he became unjustly defensive in both his verbal responses, and his body language. Such as how he went from the less than 45 degree lean to taking his other hand and putting it on the other side of me, closing me in.

The whole encounter had me so annoyed that I only remember bit and pieces of what he said. At that moment all I recall is that he was asking me how old I was. I told him that I would tell him if he would stop trying to corner me. Me having to negotiate for my personal space to avoid responding with a physically violent reaction made his existence more insignificant with every letter of every word he spoke and every millimeter of his movement. For he was trying to close me in to possess my time and space.

Now, as a Black man in the racist clusterfuck that is the American gay community, I am more than a little aware of how disregarded a black male can feel. Especially when we have been passed aside for white/light-complexioned guys by someone claiming to like, or even love us. In every scenario from a backroom tryst to a long-term relationship. However, the accumulation of such hits does not justify Nathaniel (or any other black male) imposing upon someone's personal space. Especially not in that fashion. And especially not the personal space of a stranger --- what I was to Nathaniel.

With all this said, I must publicly ask Nathaniel this...

Nathaniel, are you a rapist? Have you called yourself having a conversation with a person giving only a few inches, instead of at least a foot between that person and yourself? Have you gotten defensive when they ask you to back up? Even if they ask with the utmost politeness? Have you gotten defensive when their polite words show they would rather be left alone?

I must ask these questions because based on your behavior on the night of April 19, 2019, you have all the makings of a rapist. Repetitious in executing power moves upon the personal space of a person you have no claim to. So if you don't fix this behavior now, I expect to hear news of you being accused, arrested, indicted, tried, and convicted in due time.

I actually hope you have done no such extent of harm to someone. But if you have, I hope this article inspires them to come forward.

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