Monday, February 13, 2012

No Valentine, And I'm Fine

This is how I see myself in love.
Forever in flight. Intertwined with my significant other.

Contrary to what you may think by my sexual escapades that I write about, as this drawing of mine from before my coming out shows, I was actually very much a romantic. And I still am.

However, unlike I did back then, I'm not down on myself as I used to be for being single. Feeling that without that significant other symbolized by the winged rose embracing the winged "L" representing me that I was less of a person. Truth is had it not been for my being single, I would have never discovered my predominately gay bisexuality. I would have been living the lie of being totally heterosexual. And since then, there have been so many things about myself that my time single has taught me about myself, like what I need to improve and dissolve in myself, and what I should and should not tolerate in relationships.

Sad truth is many out here refuse and/or haven't done the same. So they are living a lie in their relationships. And they use Valentine's Day to make all the gifts and cards be the biggest aid in their life of denying that their so-called life isn't working. Or for those that are single, Valentine's Day gives them more reason to escape using a sex tryst to numb the pain they feel for being single. And being single is frowned upon in so many cultures, and definitely by media and commercialism. So they create the illusion that they are spoken for by intimately laying with someone.

Some may call me cynical, or say how I of all people shouldn't talk. Well, truth be told, I don't use people for sex. Especially not in the way I'm speaking of here. Now I can't speak for my sex partners, but every person I have a sexual escapade with is someone I bonded with because I saw something beyond the attractive face and body. It might not be something to bond with for eternity, but it was something to make me want to bond my body with theirs in that moment.

With my solace of my single life, I thought for Valentine Day that I should spread the word with a poem addressed to those who are living the escapist life I mentioned before, and urge them to seek better for themselves. And see the good in being single that I have, which prepares you to be better in choosing your next relationship, and maybe even playmate.

So with this poem I say
HAPPY VALENTINE'S DAY.
And love yourself to know who to let in, and who to put out.

No Valentine, And I'm Fine
Stare at the calendar
Singing "Whoa is me!"
As February 14th
Has you feeling lonely
Blind to the blessings of solitude
Letting it cut you like a knife
Instead of taking this time for an inner-view
Of what makes a true loving life
Your arm is a turnstile
Taking any desperado's grasp
Even more so on Valentine's Day
Making you coupled too wrong and too fast

I don't need to fuck
For the illusion
Or fuck my ex
Causing confusion
Lie to yourself all you want
That the other party understands
Ignoring you're dealing with the mixture
Of sex, lonely hearts, and man
Your bedroom has a revolving door
For the silence causes you strife
Never embracing the self-knowledge through silence
To undo your present tragic life

You want to assume my foul tongue
Is nothing more than a verbal mask
WRONG! It's my despise of weakness
Like your robotic bobble-head I’m putting on blast
Hanging onto lovers past and present
With whom you need to sever ties
Making yourself into the real liar
To the claim how your soul is alive

You see,
I ain't got no Valentine, and I'm fine
Media makes solo flight seem a crime
This is not a lie I'm hiding behind
Till love is real, 
I don't want a Valentine
So if you're single, be worth a damn
Embrace this state of mind

© 2012

8 comments:

  1. Jesse,

    What I find sad is your constant need to come to my blog, and nit-pick. Last week as "Jimmy". Now as "Jesse".

    Seriously, whether you're single or (believe that) you're not, you must be one of the sad lonely things that I'm speaking of in my poem. Because if you weren't so lonely, you would actually have something worthwhile to add to the conversation. For it is people with empty lives who respond as you do.

    Now, if I'm jumping to the wrong conclusion about you, then you need to (1)better explain your comment, and (2)make a track record of commenting void of the cattiness, you've become known for. Then I'll delete my own comment. Until that time however, this reply to you stands.

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  2. -It is "so, so sad" that in your 40 years you have never had a romantic relationship lasting more than a month.

    -It is "so, so sad" that you are so cynical about a manufactured Hallmark holiday that a lot of people find fun. After all, things will be back to normal tomorrow.

    -It's "so, so sad" that you have made it your business to criticize the quality of someones relationship when those relationships are none of your business.

    -It's "so, so sad" that that you are so, so sad.

    I fully expect you to delete my comments, but that's ok. I'm sure you'll feel better.

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  3. Happy Valentine LeNair Xavier. You celebrate this day however you want to and screw (no pun intended)what other's think! I have spoken to alot of friends today who don't celebrate Valentines Day and most of these people have been together for over 10 years!!!

    X

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  4. To Jimmy,Jesse,or whatever name you want to pull out of your ass today:

    It is NOT sad that at 40 I've never been involved with someone beyond a month. At least I haven't wasted more than a month on assholes like you and so many others have just for the sake of saying they've had a relationship.

    Lastly, your defensiveness shows that I obviously struck a nerve by citing the lacking quality of your life and relationship. And for giving me the ammo I need to make my point, your comment stays put.

    So thank you for being an asshole that I can use to show my intellectual prowess that intimidates you so that you use fake names, even while all the way in Chino Hills, CA.
    ;-)

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  5. LOL @intellectual prowess

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  6. Well Jesse from Brooklyn,

    It must be intellectual prowess. Because it's quite obvious that I have something you want if you keep coming back for more of being put on blast.

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  7. It is true ... Valentines Day is like Christmas - a holiday filled with expectations - many unmet . The worst thing for anyone to do is make those unmet expectations personal. I have been in numerous relationships - long term and short term - good and bad and I have spent a good amount of time single. Every relationship is different and only those people can say what they have or lack. I never am at a loss for men that want to spend time with me and I think that has everything to do with the fact that I LIKE SPENDING TIME WITH ME - when I am single it's cool - I can do what I want when I want and with whom I want- I am willing to give that up if I really like someone. I hate going out on Valentines even if I am with someone - it's a tacky holiday.♥♡♥

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I HIGHLY respect those willing to stand behind their comments with a name. So if you use "Anonymous" on a viewpoint that challenges mine, IT WILL BE DELETED for your cowardice to not show yourself makes your viewpoint and you irrelevant.

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