Monday, October 4, 2010

Pimps, Prostitutes, & A Dingleberry

In some of my recent comments on other websites and blogs, you may have noticed that I have been referring to porn actors as prostitutes, and studios as being pimps. That is because as they say "hindsight is 20/20", and after doing my retrospective vlog, I came to the realization that whether one likes it or not, the porn industry does make its models into prostitutes. And that includes myself. Does it have to be that way? No, but that is the way it's usually run. And it's being done that way more and more all the time.

Looking back, the only time I can truly say that I was not a prostitute for a movie was my next to last movie, "All Out Assault". I'm not going to re-tell the story, but I will say, it was void of being prostitution because BOTH me and my scene partner, Taino wanted each other before that on-camera pairing. Thanks to director Ben Marksman for reading my blog, our doing a scene together simply gave us a chance for our getting it on to come to fruition. It was why we couldn't stop grinning at each other while delivering our pre-sex dialogue.

 

I would like to add my work with Forbidden Funk Media as another time I was not a prostitute, but I can't. You see, although a blog entry posted beforehand about my scene partner, Foxx may have led to our being paired together, I later discovered that they had a policy of not giving models prior notice of who they are being paired with. This is part of why a distance had grown between us, at least on my end. After this discovery, I felt as if I was dealing with the scum of Big City Video in that incident I mentioned in Part 2 of my last vlog.

While I didn't realize that I myself was for the most part being a prostitute, I knew for certain that a "gay-for-pay" porn actor was, and still is a common loathsome whore. And if that can be said for a "gay-for-pay" porn actor, it can also be said for someone calling themselves going "straight-for-pay". First was Arpad Miklos, now we have Steven Daigle.

Now, in light of my wanting to be in the porn industry as a way to help those struggling with their orientation see genuine attraction, you know I detest this move in porn. Because like it or not, porn is not only sexual entertainment, especially for a male in shall we say, "orientation limbo", be he young or old. For that male, porn is where he discovers that he is not alone in his natural desires. And the industry needs to act on that responsibility, instead of being prostitutes and pimps playing into the mindset of "every man for himself".

No matter what your occupation, your skill is "for sale". If you're a doctor, your medical expertise is for sale. If you're a plumber, you're plumbing expertise is for sale. If you're a chef, your cooking expertise is for sale. If you're a photographer, your photographic expertise is "for sale". Therefore, if you're a porn actor, you're exhibitionism is "for sale". However, you cross a line when you take something that should be held sacred, like your orientation, and make that "for sale". And via Twitter, I made no secret of my seeing that line being crossed, which grew into a debate between me and Steven Dingleberry...I mean, Daigle.

The dialogue was as follows, starting with me tweeting:
 

His reply just proved my recent realization of how a great deal of (not the porn viewing public, but) the porn buying public are sexually depraved. So I replied:

 Now I don't know about you, but if I was someone who never wanted to be on a porn studio's set, so I chose to display my exhibitionist spirit only on XTube, I would find this reply from him quite insulting:
After a few drinks and a hit of whatever chemical later, he decides to add this: 
THE NEXT DAY, The Sword decides to retweet adding an "Amen". With such lateness after I moved on from the matter, I replied:

"Failed pornstar", he says. Well, if I'm such a failed pornstar, then how is it that with all the racist reporting on men of color in the gay porn industry that websites like TheSword and GayPornBlog do (in other words, practically none), as much as they would like to forget....THEY STILL KNOW MY NAME. And that's not me seeking validation as some might think. That's just me doing what I do best,...stating the obvious.

Also, if you've been a reader of my blog since the beginning of the year, then you know of my video, "Tre Xavier with Lucky Irish". And I am quite proud to say that it has nearly 28,000 views on XTube and over 20,000 on GayForIt.com since it was uploaded 8 months ago, and over 25,000 on RocketTube since it was uploaded there mid-April. That video has made me more popular outside of the industry than I was in it. Why? Because it was made void of all the things that made me leave the industry. There was no one lying about their orientation for the sake of a buck; there was no racism; there was no one being taken advantage of; and with a stationary camera, the viewer gets to play voyeur. If the camera wasn't stationary, I would have directed to make sure the voyeurs got to see the joy in our eyes. A joy that you won't find in the eyes of a prostitute, hence why prostitution gigs should stay behind closed doors.

Now, I didn't mention those numbers just to contradict Steven Daigle's claim that I'm a failed pornstar. I mentioned those numbers to show that if I failed in his eyes, then I failed for all the right reasons. Because at least I know that when someone who is questioning their orientation is looking for porn that shows them people comfortable enough with their claimed homosexuality to not stray, they can look at "Tre Xavier with Lucky Irish" and see that. Thereby, become at peace with themselves, and at long last realize....they are alright. And since I am at peace with that, I don't have to chase that "pornstar" anymore. So the truth is, I have already let it go. My addressing this matter is my holding the gay porn industry responsible to help those in "orientation limbo" who because of the negativity coming out gay still ensues, may need porn to find comfort in who they are.

So my question to Steven Daigle and The Sword is:
Can you guys let it go? Let go of your "me" complex, that is, and think of someone other than yourself? Or will your selfishness and self-loathing make you the next in-patients for a new season of "Dr. Drew's Celebrity Rehab"?

3 comments:

  1. Tre
    Your not a failed porn star.You don't ignore ppl on Twitter like that "porn model" as he calls himself does.You don't have a breakdown over some contest that was obviously fixed from the beginning.I respect you more than him.

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  2. Thanks, Frank

    Your support is GREATLY appreciated.

    I never took any of his words to heart. And why would I? Look at what he has to do for attention. Play "straight-for-pay"? That's not a failure as a pornstar, as much as it is failure as an individual, which is worst.

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  3. Tre
    All he wants is attention.His claim to fame is a reality star who did porn.Pretty much says it all right?

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I HIGHLY respect those willing to stand behind their comments with a name. So if you use "Anonymous" on a viewpoint that challenges mine, IT WILL BE DELETED for your cowardice to not show yourself makes your viewpoint and you irrelevant.

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