I went to a sex party Friday, and evidently somebody did not read my post, "Sex Party Etiquette: UN-dress Appropriately". In fact, a few people there didn't read the post.
There was one older white guy there wearing a polo-shirt and underwear trying to check me out. I ignored his glances. There were also these 2 big black guys who for all I know may have been twins, because once I saw what they were wearing when they considered themselves undressed, they weren't worth taking notice of in my book. They were BOTH wearing black tank tops, grey cotton boxers, and white tube socks. Matching undergarments pieces - GREAT, but not for a sex party. The only difference between them was that one went even further into their lack of knowledge of sex party etiquette by wearing a baseball cap. And a baseball cap was the problem for me with another guy, who was wearing a jockstrap.
This guy with the jockstrap may fall into a different category, but he did have something that made me turn him away along with the baseball cap. He was good-looking, had a nice plump ass, and I could have easily killed 2 birds with 1 stone. I could have both satisfied his desire for me that he showed by circling me like a vulture does a dead carcass, and stroked my ego simply by using the one stone of fucking him senseless. BUT I would have had to do it "doggy-style", because (it may seem a bit "Chelsea boy" attitude) but I did not want to look at him. For the baseball cap was such big a deal for me that it can count as Strikes 1 & 2, so his beer-gut could be considered Strike 3. Like I said, it may seem a bit "Chelsea boy" attitude at that moment, but the fact is I'm no spring chicken, I AM 39 YEARS OLD. So if I can maintain my physique by not the best of diets and without going to a gym, why can't he?
At point in the night, a few of us were on the bed fawning over this short muscular Latino. While I was touching him, one of the twins decided to give me a blowjob. It may seem cruel, but the fact is this was all he was getting out of me. First his outfit, then he gave me no eye contact to see if it was OK. Instead he just went for it. He was actually pretty good, but I kept getting distracted by touching him to show my appreciation and occasionally feeling that tank top. While I do have a kink for guys wearing only fitting tops and no pants, that was exactly the problem ----I knew he was also wearing of all things at a sex party...boxers. He at one point stood up thinking I would return the favor by giving him a blowjob ----I did not. I think I was in true "bitch-mode" that night because of so many guys trying to pursue me at a sex party wearing exactly what I said not to wear so soon after writing that blog entry.
Not long after, while in the lounging area, I was standing against the wall and the other twin with the baseball cap came up to me. He complimented me on my body, and I thanked him. He then asked me my age, when I told him I just turned 39. he got wide-eyed and said, "Really?! You look good!"
Well, I had to maintain my composure. Because it took every ounce of restraint to not let the blunt and brutally honest Aries in me come out and reply, "If you think I look good, thanks. But you are at a sex party, so you don't look good right now. Actually, you-look-stupid!"
My thought about these people is this:
If you are that ashamed of your body that you can't even get naked at a sex party, and feel comfortable in your own skin, then it's a sign for you to adjust your life to where you lose the gut you are trying to hide. And if you're not hiding the gut, don't get offended by being turned away. At least I'm not one of these gym-rats who take up with an out-of-shape person for the sheer purpose of me being seen as "The Pretty One". Because even for a tryst, your confidence and pride you take in yourself makes you that much sexier.