This past Monday, I went to The Men's Goal Workshop. I've always been skeptical of the idea of using a life coach to do whatever I want to do with my life. Especially when I take note that I'm quite intelligent and perceptive myself, so my feeling is whatever they tell me, I can pretty much figure it out on my own. Well, I put that aside, and decided to go for it anyway. And now is as good a time as any since I am not working at that dayjob anymore (blog to follow). Therefore, with my true life goals more clear in front of me with the time now where I can focus more on obtaining them, I felt if I could get any advice on making those goals a reality, then after all the bullshit I put up with from K & K LLP, then I owe it to myself to go for it.
One of the exercises we were given was to write down one goal of ours, and write downs as many ways we can think of to get to that goal. I chose the goal to become a writer. I only wrote down 3 ways to get to it. They are:
1) Write my blog - DONE
2)Get published by magazines - DONE, but would like to get published way more
3)Market myself to more mainstream publications - This is the only part of the plan that has yet to bring forth promising results. When I write about social issues in the LGBT community on my blog, I have always tried tipping off magazines like OUT and The Advocate to no avail.
When I wrote down those 3 steps, the guy sitting next to me, saw what I wrote down, and gave me a thumbs up. I'm sure he had no idea of what I've done with my writing so far, or that I was a blogger at all. But it was good to see that someone I didn't even know felt that the plan I had mapped out was one that could actually work.
There were other exercises we did during the workshop, and I while I still feel that I could have came up with this thought process on my own, it didn't hurt to (1) get a second opinion, and (2) pass on some of your own knowledge of bettering yourself, on to somebody else.
I never had someone re-affirm my plans of how to go about things before. I'm used to coming up with the plan and executing it all on my own, because I want to have no one to blame but myself should my plan fail. Well now, it's still all on me, and this workshop just by 1 visit makes me ready to try a new plan, if my 1st one should fail. My only regret is that I couldn't make it to the 2 prior workshops thanks to that dayjob.
So to summarize, it was a rewarding night that makes me look forward to the next one. Maybe you'll decide to give it a go yourself. If you're anywhere near being at an iffy place in reaching your goals, I hope so.