Don't we all wish it was that simple. Unfortunately, it's not.
I have to agree with Chi Chi LaRue in his "Wrap It Up" promos where he says in a nutshell that people watching these hot guys having sex in movies may follow what they do, and that includes whether or not they wear a condom. And agreeing is why, while I've seen some hot barebacking scenes, and been offered the opportunity to work with a studio that has produced some of those hot barebacking scenes, I personally have made the decision to not get in front of a camera and do a barebacking video myself.
We hear often about the controversy over barebacking between studios who do it, and those who don't. What troubles me is that many of the studios that don't do barebacking seem to tease us with the thought of fucking a guy bareback by slapping the bottom's ass with a bare cock, then next thing you see is the top's dick already inside the bottom's ass with a condom on it. Filmed with a continuity that would suggest that the condom just magically appeared on the top's cock.
This causes me to fear that many of the condom-only companies are on the verge of hypocrisy. Because to film the sex scene in that manner would suggest that there's either a degree of shame and/or lack of eroticism about putting on a condom. I find neither to be the case personally. Putting a condom on my partner gives me a little more time to play and wrap around his cock with my skin-lusting hands before I wrap around it with my eager-to-be-filled asshole.
So my question is, why don't so many companies that stand behind the importance of condom use, create an erotic display for putting on a condom? I have said before that we must take responsibility for the art we create. With that in mind, it's only right that condom-only companies stop hiding the putting on of a condom from viewers. It shows the porn company taking responsibility because they know that the art they are producing influences gay men, of every age, nationality, color, and creed.
When I told a friend of mine I was writing this post, he said to me that some people probably wouldn't want to see the process of putting on a condom, because they don't want to be reminded of the reality of HIV/AIDS while watching sexual fantasies in a video. To that I say, "TOUGH!" That may seem harsh. But it is reality. A harsh reality that we all have to deal with.
The problem is that many artists of not just adult, but all forms of visual entertainment have become so power-hungry in wanting to create the entire image you see in your head, that they have taken the power away from the viewer to create their own fantasy without the viewer even knowing that they've lost that power. That power being for the viewer to use his/her own imagination.
While being well aware of the harsh reality that HIV/AIDS still exist and has yet to go away, I escape that harsh reality in my masturbatory fantasies. And we need to, because trying to use porn movies to escape it by not making putting on a condom part of the erotic journey puts lives at risk, because a porn movie is made from live action, meaning actual human lives have to partake in what you are seeing, what you are enjoying. Now some of you may undersatnd my dislike of gay-for-pay actors. It's the same principal. You're influencing a fantasy that should never to be seen in any live action art, as it denies the viewer to use his/her imagination in a situation where he/she needs to.
Do I wish I could have a visual fantasy without the reality of HIV/AIDS? Of course I do, just as much as the next guy. Maybe it's my struggle with myself to come to terms with my true sexual identity that made me this way, but in live-action fantasies which puts human lives are at stake, I need to see truth. Even if that truth is a saddening one. But if we all remember to use the power of our imaginations for masturbatory fantasies, we can have a pleasing moment of escaping some saddening truth.
There is a way to escape.