In my recent post for Pitbull's ThugPornBlog, "Can I Touch? Can I Taste?", I mentioned what I learned new about my sexuality. I recently had a sexual encounter where in just 1 night, I learned not 1 new thing, but 3.
We had chance meetings in the past, but that night, we were both at Splash bar in NYC. I saw him on the dance floor while I was standing off on the side since it hadn't been too long since my arrival. When I decided to hit the floor, I was not too far from him. He turned around and saw me, and immediately recognized me. We started dancing together, and started making out where he gave me a kiss that made me feel as if his tongue and his dick simultaneously switched places with my mouth and my asshole. Not too long after, he gave me an invitation to have my way with him. Needless to say, I took him up on his offer. Especially with my thing for dancers (as he did have that great dancer's physique, fine ass included).
So where did the lessons come in.
We were doing quite a bit of foreplay that I thought was leading to a flip-fucking session. We never really talked about who was a top or who was a bottom. I was on my back and he was on top of me, then he started to get up. But it wasn't to enter me. It was to put me into him. I was shocked and turned on at the same time. The shock was from the fact that I've never had someone bottom for me and be aggressive like I am, so I could get a taste of my own medicine. And the turn-on was that while I may be considered a top for being inside of him, it turned out being that I was the one who got fucked at that moment. I always said that in having sex with me, I don't get fucked, me and the guy fuck each other. And that is exactly what happened here.
When he grabbed my dick, put it in, and started riding me, he was fucking me - and I LOVED IT! I enjoyed every moment of being a submissive top. So Lesson 1 for me was me finally getting a chance to learn what top have to go through when dealing with me as a bottom. Actually, as many times as I've topped, I'm disappointed to realize so many bottoms that I've encountered are the stereotype of being submissive. Because aggression shows the fire within, while submission shows a void of fire.
Lesson 2 brings me to admit to a flaw in my past sexual performance. I never realized that for the sex to really be on, one has to be submissive so the other can be aggressive. Otherwise the sex becomes a power struggle, and that's only good on occasion in a long term relationship. That brings me to my 3rd and final lesson from that day.
Lesson 3 is how the exchange of aggression and submission is a sign of sexual egos. Every guys who wanted me to be a completely submissive bottom, may have given me their number, but they never heard from me again. Me catering to some over-masculated ego to cover up the spineless jellyfish he usually is in his daily life, does not play a part in getting me off. I may get him off, but we are supposed to be getting each other off. That's why the sex between me and this guy clicked so well. So well in fact, that I had orgasms without ejaculating. Remember I said orgasms, plural. Because I had them not once, but twice.
It's good to get some lessons from your sexual experiences. If you don't learn anything, you'll never improve your sexual prowess. So I'm looking forward to what I'll learn next. Maybe I'll share it, or maybe next time around I'll be stingy, and I won't kiss and tell.