I recently has a problem in my bathroom that my landlord had to come by and look at. As soon as he opened the bathroom door, he saw on the door of my medicine cabinet, a copy of a pic of former go-go boy Mikey, when he was a centerfold in Unzipped Magazine's May 2006 issue. My landlord pointed to the picture, chuckled and said, "Cute".
I just told him, "He's a friend of mine." And no more was spoke on the subject that day.
The situation in my bathroom was not remedied that day, so he had to come back. The next time my landlord showed up, he brought a plumber with him. While the plumber was looking at the situation, my landlord really started to take notice of everything in my bathroom. All the things that show how gay I am that you saw in my video from my previous post.
He turned to me and said, "I didn't know you were gay, man. You don't look it."
I said, "I seem to get that a lot lately. But I'm actually bi with a gay preference."
What I kept to myself was the question, Would he have rented that room to me had I wore my sexuality on my sleeve?" This is exactly why I feel that you should reveal your sexuality on a need-to-know basis. Hypothetically speaking, let's say he would have denied me the room had he known of my sexuality. If I wore my sexuality on my sleeve, then I would have had the added (1) finding another place, and (2) finding proof that I was discriminated against because of my sexual orientation. Instead, I presented myself as I always have - as a human being who lives, loves, and longs for a place to call home so they can truly express themselves. And that is exactly who my landlord saw, hence why he rented the room to me. And because that is all he needed to know (that plus my being willing and able to pay my rent), my sexuality was not an issue.
My landlord is still reeling over his discovery of me. He realized how many signs of my dominating sexuality graced my walls. Well, no matter how much it boggles his mind, as long as he handles a situation that needs to be handled, I don't care. And I believe as long as I treat the room properly, he doesn't care.
I like to think that I may have educated my landlord somehow. By putting a new face that broadens his perceptions of how gay act and look. And if I have, then that further proves my "need-to-know " basis rule is the right way to go.